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Sit on your hands

Published February 7, 2023 by V

Sometimes the best move to make, is no move at all.

We get restless, then we mess with shit.

Messing with shit is how you lose…

…sometimes you win too, but not mostly.

The unfortunate part behind this phenomena is the things we mess with are usually the things that are working fine and probably didn’t need to be touched.

The truth is, it’s not what you lack that’s holding you back— it’s something you have or do, a habit you haven’t kicked.

Take mine— boredom.

I prematurely jump ships, abandon islands, etc. all because I need to find something that doesn’t exist.

Whatever you’re looking for, ask yourself is it from a place of weakness or strength? Would you take this action if you were strong, successful, the person you wanted to be, etc.?

-Fool

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Alters: How to become WHO you need

Published February 6, 2023 by V

Each of us has our drivers (or alternate voices)–internal judgements that guide our behavior.

For most people, these voices are weak and can easily be ignored or shut off.

For ultra successful artists, entrepreneurs, athletes, etc. these Alters gain a life of their own, being channeled and brought out for specific activities.

Mike Tyson had “Iron Mike”

Beyonce “Sasha Fierce”

You might think of this as role play, or make believe, but the truth is it’s easier to build up and believe in someone else than ourselves— and our minds are good at it.

If you aren’t strong enough, if you aren’t enough for the task at hand, bring out your Alter and let them fight for you.

Forming a relationship with this energy can only help you, there’s a reason you can hear the voice— try to grant it what it wants, safely and productively.

-fool

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The New World Order: Guilt is for society, I play how I want

Published February 17, 2022 by V

You don’t have to love everything you do, I’ll concede to that.

But when it comes to your business– it should be toddler like when you reject the broccoli train forcefully invading your lips.

It’s going to be hard and the only way to sustain your efforts is to enjoy the process itself.

Which is why I don’t have guilt.

I try things out, don’t like them– then cut them out and never think about them ever again.

Others will shame you. Try to tell you it’s wrong, and stick longer, but why? Just because it takes you less time to figure out you don’t like it, doesn’t mean you might have fallen in love tomorrow had you stuck it out.

In reality, you’re at an advantage.

At least you won’t be stuck rat racing and tail chasing for 50 years to suddenly have a surprise crash followed by a fun identity crisis.

The game is a simple one and if we didn’t complicate ourselves and how important we think everything is, it’d be easy too.

We have to do things we don’t love, cool. I get that. So, take a job that at least covers some of your values– i.e. the company culture matches your personality. Now, it’ll be easier to have better days.

On the side, whatever you choose to build, that’s treated different.

YOU HAVE TO LOVE IT.

From exploring and taking on different clients, throughout my side hustling, I’ve learned so much about what I don’t want– and that informs what I do.

This is the key.

Try things, and move on fast when you realize you don’t like them.

With movement, you’ll land on your thing.

P.S. Oh, and remember nothing lasts and nothing matters. Find yourself stuck in a rut? Do something scary (I went skydiving) that you kinda want to do.

#FOOLFWD

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